Thirteen Ways to Increase Your Self-Esteem

  
	(1) BUILD CONFIDENCE

		Confidence stays on the inside and builds from there.  So whenever you 
		want to accomplish something, picture yourself already there.  See 
		yourself successful, make it real in your mind. Close your eyes and fill 
		in all the details--how it would feel, how you would behave, how others 
		would behave in response.  Then put what you see into action.  As you 
		think, so you are. 


	(2) REACH OUT TO OTHERS

		Say nice things to other people.  Make a list of the things you would like 
		and appreciate in others.  Lend a helping hand when you can.  By helping 
		others, we feel more in control of our own lives. 


	(3) AVOID PERFECTIONISM

		Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from accomplishing your goals. 


	(4) TAKE CARE OF YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

		Your physical appearance is a critical factor in your self-esteem.  Resist 
		the urge to get sloppy on days when you feel bad.  In fact, those are the 
		days when you should take extra care to look your best. 


	(5) GET IN TOUCH WITH YOUR OWN CREATIVE ENERGY

		Get regular exercise; when you can use your body effectively, you feel more 
		in control.  Listen to music, commune with nature, meditate.  As you do 
		these things, let thoughts come and go.  Daydream and center yourself.  What 
		were your passions as a child?  What do you fantasize about now? 


	(6) RESPECT YOURSELF

		List 50 reasons why you can respect yourself.  If you get stuck, think of 
		people who admire you or have admired you, and write down what they would 
		say about you. 


	(7) LOOK FOR A SILVER LINING

		When you're going through tough times, find a strength or piece of knowledge 
		(knowledge is power, you know) that you would not otherwise have were it not 
		this particular trauma. 


	(8) ACT IN ACCORDANCE WITH YOUR OWN VALUES

		Sometimes values conflict. In that case, practice role playing with a friend 
		and explore the various consequences of each action.  Then choose what feels 
		best for you. 


	(9) BE GOOD TO YOURSELF ON A DAILY BASIS

		Do something that makes you feel good--something that's just for you -- every 
		day. 


	(10) CHALLENGE YOURSELF

		Take a course.  travel to a new place -- it's easier to try out new facets of 
		your personality when you are away from the familiar.  As you meet new 
		challenges, you gain new confidence and enhance your sense of accomplishment. 


	(11) PRACTICE OPTIMISM

		Dispute your pessimistic beliefs.  Think of misfortunes as temporary and 
		specific instead of permanent and general. For example, "All managers are 
		jerks" is permanent and pervasive, a view that can lead to feeling hopeless 
		about a particular problem you've encountered. "He was in a bad mood this 
		morning" is an explanation that takes the temporary/specific viewpoint.  It 
		allows hope for improvement. 


	(12) DON'T TAKE THINGS SO PERSONALLY

		When somebody behaves in a manner that you find rude or abrasive, that tells 
		you something about that person and how he or she is feeling at the moment.  
		Try to see the pain or fear the other person is experiencing and tackle it 
		from that perspective. 


	(13) DON'T TAKE THINGS SO SERIOUSLY

		See the humorous side of life's everyday calamities.  When you can see both 
		the serious and humorous side of a given situation, your perspective and your 
		approach will be more balanced.  So lighten up. You'll bounce back from 
		disappointments and embarrassing moments more quickly, and more people will 
		like you better, too. 



	Practice these positive measures to reinforce your own belief in your self worth and 
	increase your self-esteem.  Then you'll have the master key to you own success. 






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